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The desire to get things right
is understandable,
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but it often works against learning.
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Let's dive in.
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In today's video,
I want to go over three main points.
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The first one is how correctness often
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creates tension, mental and otherwise.
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The second point is that learning requires
permission to be wrong.
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And then the third point
is about repetition.
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So first of all, the fear of mistakes.
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Oh my gosh.
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In anything people have fear of mistakes.
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it's human nature.
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So I remember when I was living in Japan,
I was teaching English
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as a second language, and a lot of people
just wouldn't talk at all
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until they had exactly
the correct sentence in their mind.
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And then they'd say it.
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But then the conversation was like
they missed that part of the conversation
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where we're on a different topic
by the time they got that.
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And maybe if you're a language learner,
maybe you've been there.
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I think we've all been there.
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But you can see that,
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for example, with language,
to have such a strong desire to be right,
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it doesn't help you in that way.
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If the conversation
is completely on a different topic,
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by the time you get your correct sentence
all put together.
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So it's the same with the body.
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Hey sorry to interrupt the video,
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but some of you have been asking
how you can get a copy of my book.
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The teacher.
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The book includes a wide range of topics,
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including from horseback
riding to budo, the Japan experience
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and returning home building intuition,
attracting
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new students
to aikido, aikido and nonviolence.
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Leading by example women in Aikido.
Arrogance.
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Saying no to homogenization in aikido,
Aikido and distance
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teaching, body alignment
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So if you haven't purchased
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to just head to lia-suzuki.com/book
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or use the link in the YouTube
description below.
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It's available in English
and it's even available in Italian.
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Actually, that's just on Amazon.
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And the book has.
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Let me show you a little bit of this book.
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a photo of me, when I first started,
can you see it as it's showing up
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Some photos of my teacher, Takeda Shihan
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my first teacher, Bill Gleason
sensei, in Boston.
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And, some of you might recognize.
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That's Gary Small sensei
taking ukemi there.
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more casual
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setting with myself
and Takeda Shihan back in the 80s.
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Hence the crazy hair.
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Another one of my favorite photos
of Takeda Shihan.
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one of my favorite photos of Yamaguchi
sensei.
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There I am, teaching a seminar
at my dojo in Hollywood.
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Just a regular photo shoot, actually,
from a regular class.
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Teaching in Hollywood dojo.
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Oh. Wow.
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my friend, Brandon Ishisaka sensei.
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I believe that's me
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training with his daughter,
who now I think is, like 16 years old.
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Anyway, she's super cute,
And she's doing great.
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She's still training.
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if you haven't gotten the book
and you'd like to get one,
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just look in the description below
this video
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and there's a link there
that you can click on to order your copy.
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Now let's get back to the video.
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What I see happening a lot
is with new people and experienced people.
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But we see it
especially with new people,
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is when they just freeze
and they have to have
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the technique explained to them
before they can do anything at all.
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And the way I teach is kind of diagnostic.
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if somebody's just standing there,
I can give them
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a little bit of an explanation.
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I just showed the technique.
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If they're really new,
I'll give them a bit of an explanation,
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but they learn much quicker
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if they take the risk of being wrong,
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I show it, they jump up, they're like,
oh, what the heck was that?
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And they just grab a wrist
and start moving.
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Then I can diagnose it and I can
go, great, now open your chest even more.
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While you do that, keep going.
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And then they open the chest
and I go, great.
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And then
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then I say, okay, no, bring your elbow in
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and open your chest
and keep moving, right.
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So I can ratchet it up.
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Now add this correction.
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Now add that correction.
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Now add that if they keep moving.
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If we stop and discuss the technique,
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they don't learn as quickly.
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But some people get really nervous,
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doing it the other way around
because they know they're making mistakes.
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But that's okay.
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Right?
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If you've got a teacher who's
going to say, great, now add this to it.
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Great.
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Now let's tweak that. Great.
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Now let's tweak this.
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that's that's the best way.
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So please don't be afraid of mistakes.
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And, the other thing that happens
is that these
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this fear of mistakes
doesn't just affect the mind.
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Right? Like,
oh, I don't want to make a mistake.
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It makes you tense mentally,
but it also makes you tense physically.
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So if you can embrace making mistakes,
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then you'll progress better.
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And it also when you're thinking about
I don't want to make any
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mistakes, your focus narrows.
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You can't see as much,
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right?
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So do everything that you can
to give your self permission.
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In fact, encouragement to make mistakes.
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Just like the language learner.
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You know, somebody says to you,
maybe you're a native English speaker
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and somebody says, where store Well,
you know what they meant?
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Where is the store?
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Right.
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So it's just down there.
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Is this in that, in that.
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Right.
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So you've got to start somewhere.
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And if the timing is,
is right to do something, to take action,
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take it, it might not be perfect,
but it might be good enough.
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And if you've like I said,
if you've got a good teacher,
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they'll help you tweak as you go.
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The second point
If you've been watching my videos, you've
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probably noticed that I
sometimes use Shoto or Shortsword.
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I find that it helps students
drop their shoulders,
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stop pushing
and really feel the technique.
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I have a limited number of these Lia
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Because of the lumber shortage in Japan.
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So once these are gone,
that's it for the time being.
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You'll be prompted to let me know
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which seminar you'll attend,
and then I'll bring it right to you.
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Now let's get back to the video.
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is exploration over
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performance,
this is the mentality that we need
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that our first job,
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the top priority is exploration, right?
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Not performance,
not execution, but exploration.
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And along the way, you'll do some things
right and you'll do some things wrong.
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This is not a street fight
where you're going to be killed.
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It's a dojo, right?
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I'm not talking about a street fight.
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I'm talking about a dojo
where we're training in Aikido
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and we're working to build reflexes
that will serve us in conflict resolution
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external, internal, physical, verbal.
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in order for us to put more emphasis
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on exploration
than execution at the beginning,
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we need to hold curiosity,
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at a higher priority than judgment.
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So don't just judge.
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I was wrong, I was wrong, I was wrong.
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But notice, like, oh, wow,
that was interesting.
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Oh, I thought it was going to fall
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at this moment, but
he fell a little bit later or whatever.
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And also
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we need space to adapt things.
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So you train with somebody
your own height and things work
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this way or that way,
and then you train with somebody
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six inches or a foot taller than you.
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Things are going to work
a little bit differently.
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Or somebody
six inches or a foot shorter than you.
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Things are going to work differently.
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So when we when we get rid of this idea
of right and wrong, then
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we can adapt more quickly and we can adapt
better to to different situations.
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There's always different situations.
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You get human beings
and things are always changing.
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then repetition, repetition
without pressure.
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Of course you want to get better
and better and better.
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You want to do things correctly.
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But if you don't
pressure yourself about it,
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then gradually your body will find the way
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through these these techniques
tweak a little bit here.
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Now it's not.
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There's no such thing as 100% correct
anyway, right?
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But we can strive to get closer and closer
to correct.
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All right.
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So repetition without the pressure
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and the
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gradual
integration tweak this a little bit.
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Oh now tweak that a little bit.
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And then gradually
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you get comfortable
and perhaps even confident.
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So think about for example seminars.
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This is really what happens in in seminars
right.
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Where it's a three day
seminar, five day camp, whatever.
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And we repeat we repeat we repeat and
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every time that we train
with a different person
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for this particular technique,
we learn something more.
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We get a little bit better at it,
a little bit better, a little bit better,
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a little bit better,
and we tweak it little by little.
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You might be a little bit nervous
training with this person or that person.
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Well then you go through this
process with them and now
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everything was fine.
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You've got a little bit more confidence.
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So this is this is one of the beauties
of a good seminar, by the way.
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By the way,
when you go to a seminar, sometimes
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we go to seminars with a group
from our dojo.
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Right.
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Like you,
you go with your friends from your dojo.
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That's great.
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I hope that when you do that,
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you don't just train with your friends
from your dojo in fact,
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I hope you avoid the friends
from your own dojo.
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Of course, sometimes
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you'll probably pair up with them,
but try to avoid them because here you are
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at the seminar with other people
who move on in another way,
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and you're unfamiliar with these people.
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So try to train with all of them.
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Put that as your top priority.
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In conclusion,
progress comes from patience
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and repetition, not perfection.
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So in the coming week at your next class,
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try to approach your training in this way.
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And if you already do, that's great.
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But if you feel that
you could be a little bit less focused on
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being absolutely correct,
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then try some of try to approach it,
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without this pressure
that you put on yourself
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about about being absolutely correct.
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And then let me know
in the comments section how it went.
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Looking forward
to seeing you again next week. Bye bye.